I differentiate between pole dance and pole fitness because the dynamics change when you put the Y-chromosome with a "stripper pole." For some groups especially men, "fitness" is a step up on the evolutionary (stripper, dancer, athlete) pole ladder. I am a male "dancer". I think coming out is much harder for male dancers than female dancers.
The "fitness" thing bypasses the sexy issue. In my book, fitness for men means that you need to hold the Flagpole or Iron-X pole moves for 5 minutes and when you are done with that you need to pummel that pole with a total display of upper body strength and testosterone. If you get more than four inches away from the pole you are going to disappear in a puff of smoke.
I'm out and very proud. So when I tell people I pole dance it means:
- I don't care what assumptions you might make about my sexuality.
- I don't go from trick to trick with the music in the background like elevator music.
- I can get fifteen feet away from the pole and say something without ever uttering a word.
- Music is everything. I know how to dance under it, with it and count it.
- I know that you can't fake sexy. Sexy is being yourself and saying it without pretense.
- There is motion in stillness.
- A move comes from deep inside and it goes out with your breath.
- I study lines. I think Vagonova "Russian" school of ballet every time I move a leg or arm. When you are 5' 11" you can make even the simplest move look awesome with length and grace.
- Telling a story with my body.
- Being vulnerable
- Taking risks
- I'm not always sure of myself.
- I see more than brass, stainless steel and sex.
- I am ok with sexy and I like being part of it. I want to be desired. I'm not afraid to admit it.
- I like performing. Dancers are meant to be seen.
- Passion is more important than technical ability.
- I don't want to dance. I need to dance.
P.S. I'm not really big on these so called special days but today I'm going with the flow.