(Posted on Studio Veeena after I strirred the hornets nest with my blog about Coaching and Teaching).
I understand that many of my readers probably think that I have
overreacted to something meant to be humorous or tongue in cheek and I
totally understand that. However as (Veena Member) said I grew up male
and I have been subjected to what borders on or what could be considered
physical and emotional abuse by teachers and coaches.
I come from a pole dance studio that is very spiritual. The dance is
used by my teacher to heal in a gentle but firm way. We are never
allowed to say "can't or never". But her reminders and insistence are
quiet and gentle. Her approach to dance is philosophically very Eastern.
Her warm up is demanding both mentally and physically but I never walk
out of her class feeling like I have after some hockey practices or gym
classes. When my arm is out of position on a move she gently moves it.
When she does it without saying a word after the fifth or sixth time I
feel like I'm letting her down and that is my reminder to suck it up and
What I want to say is that one of the reasons men don't dance is because
we are always supposed to be tough. We can never cry, we can never show
hurt. The whistle blows... we skate. Seeing that list brought out
something in me that dug up a lot of old wounds and reminded me that if I
reacted as I did yesterday how did some of my older players
remember me as a coach before I had to rethink my methods and change?
When I put on my skates and take the ice I am the guy the players are
supposed to look up to and trust. In a dance studio I'm the student and
when I look in the mirror and see my demons I know that all the push ups
in the world are not going to fix what hurts and I also see things from
a different viewpoint because I do coach and teach.
Everyone responds to teaching methods differently and I just want people
to think carefully about the way they run classes and approach
students. Some students shut down and other thrive in the class
environment. Reach as many as you can.
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