(A version posted earlier on Studio Veena)
It's two days before Christmas and all through my house not an ill
feeling was stirring...Then I noticed the following call in my Facebook
timeline. (sic)" **CALLING ALL MALE POLE DANCER** PLEASE HELP me. Do you
absoultly need a bare chest to pole? Can you compeet in a vest....?
Then I read the thread. In essense something is cooking with certain
competition rules regarding men dancing topless."
In my very best short Spanish/Italian temperament I posted to the supportive friends wall:
"
Thank
you M.E. I only have access to KT's thread in some other dancers
time lines. I find the Olympic swimming arguments and guys topless in
tiny swimsuits "distracting" offensive. 1) Our dance can be sexual. For
both men and women. Get over the sexist crap. 2) Some of us could care
less the Olympics. We are artists. The whole thing is sexist. When I
ballet dance I have just as much hanging out in tights and a dance belt.
Wow. Distracting... Pot Kettle Black.
I then posted this as my status:
"Sexism
and discrimination against male dancers is alive and well. If our ass
and bulge is hanging out its distracting. Tell me that at least 50% of
the "dance wear" on Bad Kitty isn't distracting. Rules, competition,
legitimacy, fitness. I'm an artist. If you don't like my sexy male ass
hanging out don't look.
I
have dealt with this subject from both scholarly and gut levels since I
started blogging about dance. Dance can be sexual. You can find Allegra Kent's thoughts about dance here in my blog. Suzanne Farrell has also spoken out on the matter. Ballet is sometime choreographed with the men topless. Sometimes the
ballet dancers appear almost naked. I don't ever have any intentions of
competing but I get waxed. Everything. All gone. I wear tiny black stuff
when the mood hits me. I don't see anything different when a woman who
normally dances barefoot comes to class with her heels in something
really revealing just because. One of my initial blog posts here on
Veena was about a reaction I got from a female dancer in my studio that
had problems with my swimsuit. It was the very same reaction I saw
today.
I guess my heart will always be with the artistic in pole "dance"
because you just can't logically judge art on a 0 to 10 scale. You like
it or you don't. You might be offended, you might be inspired. You might
be sexually aroused. Art isn't logical.
Dancers are performers. We are meant to be seen. The mirror, the
camera, the heart. You can be technically great and stink because you
have no passion. I try to make my dance as honest as I can make it. If I
offend someone I am just as likely to move someone in some way. A few
minutes after I posted my mini-rant on my page a female friend
responded, "I like the "asspect" of male dance."
That kind of comment is one of those that keeps me dancing. I am just
as empowered by the sexy in dance as any woman. I want to be attractive.
Deep inside I want to be desired. Rules just can't change that.
I'm a dancer.
Hey just got through the first 1/3 of your post and I had to comment. I think I definately saw you on YouTube a few years ago when I was first learning pole. Long story short, I was on a hiatus and now I'm back with a pole, and on the other side of the world :D . Anyways I just randomly got in to blogging a few days ago and started obsessively looking for pole blogs and lo and behold I come across you- the man who pole dances and I totally watched a couple of your videos. Just wanted to say props to you- and i *love* the fact that you are a science nerd like me! :D (meteorologist? way cool!) ... okay going to go read some more and then onto the pole :D
ReplyDeleteOh wow! Sorry I am so late getting back to you. On YouTube I am bobbygnzpk75. I don't publish much there since the music copyright rules tend to gut most of my dance. It's all pretty old. My newer stuff is on Studio Veena under my real name. ;-)
DeleteI love this post! Still looking for your videos on YouTube - can't find them yet!
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